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First, a definition: by a no-safeword scene or playing without a safeword I mean a scene or situation where the participants have agreed that the bottom will not have a safeword to stop the scene and will have to rely on the top knowing when they have really and truly had enough. This is very different from another kind of technically safewordless scene where the participants agree to use plain English, making special code words that really mean no unnecessary. Lots of people, myself included, are really attracted to the idea of doing a no-safeword scene.

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No safeword, really?

Communication is sexy. Here are some nifty tips:.

To me, the time where safewords come out is consensual nonconsent. Share this: Twitter Facebook. Interesting article.

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Try with the little things and move on. You start to kiss and then they touch you here and there, and then whoop there is sex happening. Unless I decide to take away a certain work AKA no so that I can say no or complain a bit during play. As a newbie, this is utterly unhelpful.

Instead of negotiating down to one safeword, I keep my play very open to communication. BDSM and alternative lifestyles are about finding your own way to fuck and love while being ethical.

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Playing with safewords is some advanced kinky shit. We are saying no when we really mean yes, which can get to be confusing territory.

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There are ways to keep someone submissive to you while still having them make requests. This article is a straw man argument against safe words. We have normalized extreme edge play in the BDSM community. Any play that is with a safeword is some form of consensual nonconsent in my word. I want my partner to tell me when she thinks she is getting close to the end of her limit, I want her to tell me when her arm is going numb, I want her to tell me when to stop. If you are a competent top or dominant, you should be able to maintain control without removing communication.

Then, if you want to play with more edge play you can choose to take away certain words. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Two years ago I wrote an article called safewords are not enough. They have a hand al system that indicates how the bottom is doing in the scene. Then when you feel more comfortable you can experiment with taking away some words.

So now what? Despite the cringe-worthy oxymoron of that phrase, what people mean by consensual nonconsent is that we are playing at not wanting something.

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That is just sexy to me. Yeah, I said it. Learning to be ok with hearing your partner talk about these things is important.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Two years later I still feel the same.